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Date: 07/04/2009
 I'm sure I've written a variation of this post at some point in the fairly recent past, but I'm far too lazy to be scrolling through entries trying to locate the original post. Besides. If I have, it was probably privatized in response to another bout of family-drama, so let's pretend what I'm about to say here today is new and uncharted territory for me, shall we?
There's A Difference Between "Man, She's An Attractive Woman" and "Good God, I Want To Tear Her Clothes Off and Fuck Her Brains Out."Admittedly, it's a mouthful of a sub-title for this section of my post, but Goddammit, it's true. Moreso than men, women are all dainty lines and sloping curves; from the standpoint of pure aesthetics, women are attractive. As women, we're also more likely to recognize attractive members of our same gender than men are -- it's far more socially acceptable for me to find Angelina Jolie absolutely gorgeous than it would be for a man to gush about Johnny Depp's disarming grin. Whatever the reasons for it, women have a tendency to evaluate the attractiveness of their peers in a far more open and vocal way than men.
That being said, I think young women these days grip rather instinctually - and somewhat pathetically - to the rather trendy idea that finding another woman attractive automatically means they're bisexual. That somehow "Hey, she's pretty" equates to a deeper sexual attraction that can only be described as equal to (or maybe even greater than) whatever attraction they feel towards members of the opposite sex. That "She's got gorgeous eyes" suddenly means a desire to sexually experience the woman in question..
However, attraction (or finding someone attractive) is fundamentally different than sexual attraction (or finding someone sexually attractive). There is a vast difference between the desire to have sex with say, Eliza Dushku, and merely wanting to have those characteristics we find attractive in her.
You Don't Want to Have Sex with Her; You Just Want to BE Her. Sticking with the Eliza Dushku example (because good Lord, I really do want that woman to undress me with her teeth), I've come to the conclusion that young women are far more likely to admit to attraction than jealousy. In coveting say, Eliza's tiny waist, ample hips and dark eyes, they redefine the jealous/envious desire to be everything they find attractive about this other woman as, instead, a desire to have her.
Because boys are far more likely to find bisexuality attractive in a woman, and nobody likes a jealous bitch. More Here...
Source: http://www.datingish.com/706336381/you-cant-be-a-bisexual-woman-if-you-only-want-men/
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